Why Are Relationship So Hard?
Why Are Relationship So Hard?
That is the million dollar question. Webster Dictionary defines a relationship: is the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. Therefore what is a concept of love in a relationship? Love is one of the most profound emotions known to us (man, woman). In a relationship I have found that there are many forms of love. For example to love someone is different from being in love with someone. I am sure being in love is one of the many goals in a relationship like honesty, trust, commitment…etc. So, why do relationships faltered? Umm, clearly we all were made to need each other. Need yes, but it didn’t say anything about liking one another. Crazy as it sounds to love someone seems to be easier than liking someone. I’m not suggesting that falling in love is easy, there is a difference as I stated previously. Just think about it, we tend to love our family members and friends unconditionally. However, if you were to be honest with yourself you would realize even though you love them you might not like them as much. You not feeling that answer. Then how about this then.
Today’s relationships has become a systematic byproduct of society or do I dare say social media influence and neglect. People cannot seem to get out of their own way. With an overwhelming ignorance between their wants and theirs needs. Therefore they let society (social media) dictate what those goals are. Money, beards, fashion, places, cute faces and everything big as long you have a one inch waist you are winning. Couple with the fact that we live in a microwavable generation where everything is now or never. One miss call, sorry but it’s over. No response to a text, keep texting that other chic, we are over, no bless you, I have took all I can stand and I cannot stand it no more, we are done. Besides the roles between men and women have reverse over the years, which killed chivalry and ended courting. Men are too emotional, woman are acting like men…etc. Courtships now a days consist of send me a pic. You send me $40. Also maybe the fact that everyone is waiting for the other shoe to drop in their relationship doesn’t help either. Giving each other a 3-6 month windows to turn back into Cinderella and the pumpkin. Their belief is everyone wears a masquerade in that timeline, and usually the façade falls after they achieve their short term goals.
Even though we are made to need each other I believe there is a fundamental flaw between us. I used Occam’s razor, the simplest answer is the truth. Man wants everything to remain the same, as woman wants change. That is why marriages seem to falter so quickly. The belief into something that is not seen or touch is very difficult for many. No one wants to put their faith and trust into someone that is going to betrayed, hurt or ultimately failed them. No one wants to give their very essence and not get it reciprocated back. To have someone’s best interest at heart takes a leap of faith unlike anything else in this world. People believe that showing vulnerability is a sign of weakness that is why so few have found the level of success in their relationships. This is just my opinion. So tell me why do you think relationships are so hard